A case of selective outrage
My wife contributes this Tattler Tale:
I board Purple Line headed south at about 7:30 p.m. on a Thursday. The train was crowded, but I found a seat among three men in their early 20s. They were gossiping gleefully about women whom they knew. For instance, they were talking about a woman from Rockford who didn’t know how to act on the Red Line. They said she was wearing jewelry that she shouldn’t have, carrying a purse and acting nervous, generally acting like a country bumpkin.
Their conversation was spiked with liberal use of both the F-word and the N-word. These guys weren’t threatening at all, they were just funny in their gossiping.
We all got off at Howard, the guys still talking about various women and their habits. On the platform I noticed a woman standing nearby with her five children, ranging in age from 10 to 2. One of the young men started describing a women he knew, emphasizing “her big ol’ titties. Once she came out without wearing a bra. She could have knocked you out with those things.”
The woman with kids turned around sharply and said, “Have some respect!” At this rebuke, the guy says: “Fuck you! I’m grown, and I pay my own bills. I can say whatever the fuck I want!” The woman interrupts, shouting: “I don’t want my kids to hear that kind of language.”
Then he reiterates: “I am a grownup. When you start paying your own way, you can tell your kids to not talk like me.”
“Have some respect!”
“Fuck you! Learn how to mind your business.”
Mercifully, the train arrives, and we all got on the same car.
Then the guy talks among his friends about the woman, continuing to berate her. The woman continues to ask for respect, jawing at the guys some more. Even the motorwoman got in on the act. She came out of her work space and told everyone to put a lid on it.
The woman got off at Jarvis, the next stop.
After her exit he said to his friends: “You notice she didn’t get mad until I mention the word tits. I was saying the whole time, ‘F-this and N-that,’ but she wasn’t offended till I started talking about some woman’s titties.”